So me and my gf are in a long distance relationship. we hooked up about 10 days before i left for college. Ever since i've only been able to see her during winter and spring breaks. we've been together for almost a year now. we talk on the phone everyday, and she always tells me she misses me, and how shes dying without me. To me shes everything i could ever ask for in a girl and more. shes essentially my dream girl.

However i'm not one to tolerate cheating.

I'm going home soon for the summer to be with her, and i'm excited to see her. so i was looking at pictures of her on her photobucket account, and i came across pictures of her and her ex. they look like they loved each other in their old pictures together which doesnt bother me because the past is the past. then i got to the point where the pictures were of me and her when we first met and got together. and as i continued flipping thru more photos it progressed to her 21st birthday party. where i found a picture of her kissing her ex... her birthday party took place a month and a half after we got together. which really hurt me.

I know how the mind can be irrational in times like these but it leads me to wonder if she still sees him when i'm away at college. also i'm debating whether its fair to be mad at this.
For 1. it happend a long time ago
and 2. the long distance thing confuses me. were the 10 days we spent together before i left just considered a fling?

this situation is tough for me. i was really looking forward to spending my summer having fun and enjoying myself with my girl friend. i go home in 5 days. and i'm not sure if i want to ruin the start of my summer with something like this, esp if it turns out to not be a big deal.

on the other hand no matter how perfect the girl may be to me. i absolutely HATE cheating.

so what do you guys think? should i confront her with this? or regard it as not a big deal?

Okay- you need to bring it up but in a NON accusatory way. We women DO NOT like accusations, especially when they are unfounded. Do you have any friends back home that you could ask before hand. Don't ask her over the phone though, do it in person. I hope things turn out for the best. Good luck.

unfortunately no. shes 3 years older then me, so our friends are in totally different age groups

oh that sucks. well i do suggest you talk to her about it. but like i said don't accuse her. just tell her that you were perusing her photos and noticed that one and you were wondering what that kiss was all about. good luck

one picture of one kiss is no big deal

let it go, mate (IMG:http://www.glowsticking.com/forums/style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)

id say talk to her about it.
that could bea big problem.

just make sure you talk to her in a way to show your not really mad. even if you are. just tell her your upset she did it and wha tnot and try and clear it up.

and also think of it this way...perhaps she was drunk and didnt know what she was doing?

but what if thats the only picture and she did it more times?


personally since im in a relationship id be pissed if i saw my girlfriend do that.
id probably ask her abut it and what not...and then probably go after her ex.
luckily for me my girlfriend knows i have a very short temper when it comes to guys and she knows if she was to cheat on me id kill him.

its already happened and she didnt even cheat.
some guy kept hittin on my girlfriend and yea lets just leave it at...he learned with a trip to the hospital.

either way i say just talk to her about it. cause if it happened once it could happen again and could lead to more bad news

He needs to clear the air for sure! Letting it go could do much much more damage.

its important that these little goober doobers (for a lack of a better term) exist called "friend kisses" and "drunk kisses"

that being said, i think you're heading for dangerous territory by assuming that she has done it more than once. in my experience, even the best relationships fail because people make accusations and get pissed at each other for things that arent even true. And as you stated, you DONT know whats going on... especially in a long distance relationship, so as of this moment in time, no, you should not be mad.

if you can keep yourself under control, and wont retaliate if she responds defensively... then i say go for it and talk to her. just dont assume anything until you KNOW whats going on, yaddida? (IMG:http://www.glowsticking.com/forums/style_emoticons/default/wink.gif)

Amongst the wildly different opinions being thrown out here, there's something no one has considered yet. This is a long distance relationship that started 10 days before