Hey gs.c,

I've been in a relationship that's almost 4 months and I have to end it. We're not connecting and she seems to be avoiding me. I already made up my mind that i have to break up with her. I know that doing it over electronic medium is completely wrong, So one day, I'll show up face to face to her and say it. The problem is I've never dumped a girl before. I really don't know how to say break it to her.(pun intended). So gs.c, how can I do it?

tell her its over

explain why

talk abt it if she wants

hug and leave lol

requesting to maintain a friendship is optional.
and sex prior to bringing this up is optional (but recomended =P) lol

Don't beat around the bush.

Don't sugar coat it.

Be honest.

If she gets emotional about it (crying and the like), tough it out. If she gets emotional about it (violently), call a lawyer. =.=;;

Its not going to be easy, but being very blunt about it will help. Be 100% completly honest and get everything you need to get out.

Breaking up sucks; no one wants to do it, but the faster you do it the better.

Mmk I will say my opinions, dont kill meh.

DON'T have prior sex. you will confuse the hell out of her, even if she is the reason.

That aside,
don't ignore her
don't EVER change your mind in less that 3 days
don't refuse to explain
if she keeps trying, and you think it will not ever work at all, change your number.
because if you don't say why, it will never....ever....end. (unless she knows it is happening) lol.

Don't do it on vacation either.

talkin about breaking up . i always end up running way . with another person ...

Its freaking hard to break up, and now that you feel the time is right keep your focus.

Be HONEST. Don't lie, don't sugar coat, but you don't have to be mean either.
NEVER say something you "think" she wants to hear like...

"It never meant anything to me."
"You deserve better, so do I."

Those things are like BLOWS to the heart. I've had the "It never meant anything to me" said to me after dating for a YEAR. The worst part was I was breaking up with him.

If all goes well, and you stay calm (there's gonna be crying) it might be mutual.

DON'T do it over the phone... god that sucks.
Don't tell them you want to be best friends either.
If its to hard for them to think of you as just friends, then don't push it. Cause that will lead into relationship take 2. That's just another slap to the face.

Keep your reasons short and simple. Don't be long winded with details of how you want to have sex with someone else or feel you need to date other people because you can see yourself with all of them.

She's gonna need alone time too. Time to think and ponder. THink of a place you can meet where transportation home, by yourself is easy. Even if its on her front door step. You don't want to have to drive her home after the news and get bombarded with "Why, why why!"

That's just stuff I've learned in my past experiences.
Lots of crying, lots of bad feeling butterflies, and lots of sadness.
But its life, and that's what happens.

You can't marry everyone you date.

-RG

Sorry for butting in Jinggoy, but how did it go?

Thanks everyone. It turns out that she did the breaking up (0.o).

I must say, Raver Girl gives some good advice.