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 Jul 16 2008, 01:32 PM
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well, im going to use fake names just for safety. 'james' is 'miranda's bf i am dating 'sarah' we have been going out for about a week now. she says that 'james' always sleeps over at her house because he is best friends with her brother. tonight i was on myspace and she messaged me saying that 'james' practically raped her. i called her to ask what happened and she said she was lieing on the couch watching tv while he was on their computer and he came over and started to rape her. she said she told her brother but i dont think that is enough to get him to stop coming over. and now looking back she said that he always slept at their house and had to sleep in her bunkbed. so i am guessing that this has probably happened more than once (while she was asleep) really, im freaking out here. nothing this bad has ever happened to me and i dont know what to do. i asked her if she wanted me to call the cops and she said no and when i did call her she just told me the story and told me she had to hang up cuz she was crying too hard. i really dont know what to do, can someone help me.
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Jul 16 2008, 02:03 PM
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You can't do anything. She probably doesn't want to make it worse, if its actually true. Calling cops will just add drama that she finds to be a waste. Just....question the situation before you get too dramatic about it. Hindsight is always a killer.
If it IS true, and such, as bad as it sounds, let it pass.
-trying not to be a bitch lol-
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Jul 16 2008, 02:07 PM
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QUOTE (Reahzzz @ Jul 16 2008, 06:03 PM)  You can't do anything. She probably doesn't want to make it worse, if its actually true. Calling cops will just add drama that she finds to be a waste. Just....question the situation before you get too dramatic about it. Hindsight is always a killer.
If it IS true, and such, as bad as it sounds, let it pass.
-trying not to be a bitch lol- i understand.. i just thought it would be best to do something about it.
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Jul 16 2008, 02:11 PM
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If you wanna carry on with this (I have a lot more to say but forums freak me out), AIM it up, yo. This stuff is iffy, but I'd rather not say anything on here. x.x lol
SN - Stubbidactyl. Im never offline.
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Jul 16 2008, 02:13 PM
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i cant use aim..
(kinda perma banned from it. its a long story)
its ok tho, i understand wat u mean i just felt like i should have done SOMETHING.
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Jul 16 2008, 02:29 PM
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Alright here we go :breathes in:
Because of the fact that it probably has been happening for a while, and you guys have only been together for a little while, i doubt that she had a serious issue with it. She could have left the house those nights, for example. Also, age. (I know Im young but I have a LOT to ... say. lol). If so called James is you guys's age it is hard to classify as rape and not just teenage infatuation that turned bad after thought. If it KEEPs happening, she needs to try and avoid it herself. If she doesn't, then do something. She, if it was a problem, would probably be avoidant of him.... that seems more probable. Let her try it first, then you. If you can't, THEN do something drastic.
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Jul 16 2008, 03:17 PM
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your hearing obviously one side of the story..go talk to him about and see what he says, if you think he is lying and he did 'rape' her...idk how big he is compared to you but...me personally if you think she is worth fighting for like that then go ahead. but if you dont love her or like her enough to brawl it out then dont do anything.
but whether your a fight or lover.
talk to him. and get his story.
tahts fucked up though...
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Jul 16 2008, 04:01 PM
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i'm pretty positive that this was the first time this has happened because when i called her she was bawwing (no sarcasm ment) and her mom is trying to get the guy arrested for rape.
i trust her more than that to be suspicious about this guy and from the very few times that i have talked to him he acts like a complete asshole and always flirts with her even though i'm RIGHT THERE and she tries to tell him to stop flirting with her cuz hes going out with her best friend
and in response to the fighting thing :
im puny. i dont fight, i never have believed in violence and i never will believe in violence. right now i think she is worth fighting for and i would get in a fight with the guy if i saw him but it would just be idiotic cuz i would get my ass wooped.
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Jul 16 2008, 04:22 PM
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if it was legitimate rape, and not just him messing around and "going a little too far"... you know.. ha ha... shrug it off.. that kind of thing, then you HAVE to do something about it.
depending on what action you're comfortable with, you could do something as simple as making sure she is never around him again, or go through the process to get him arrested/ get a restraining order, etc
Don't just ignore it and *hope* it doesn't happen again.
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Jul 16 2008, 04:58 PM
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QUOTE (zerizum @ Jul 16 2008, 07:01 PM) and in response to the fighting thing :
im puny. i dont fight, i never have believed in violence and i never will believe in violence. right now i think she is worth fighting for and i would get in a fight with the guy if i saw him but it would just be idiotic cuz i would get my ass wooped. I'll come over and help you drop his ass, I wrestle at my high school, we would smoke his ass. My advice is before you do anything legal, talk to the guy get his story if it is true that this is rape pursue this legally, that's the most secure way to A: make sure he stays away from her and B: after being through the hell that is the legal system, at least for a Criminal Sexual Conduct, which this sounds like CSC 1 or 2, 2 at the least, people won't reoffend. But make sure you have all the facts and its definately true, cuz like I said the legal system is hell on earth and you don't want to fly off the hinge and accidently put an innocent person through it. Secondly, for her, obviously, be there for her, wether its for her to talk to or too take her mind off things. If she's the repressive type, don't squeeze her arm off but try to make her talk even if its a little snidbit, if she represses things it can result in more trauma than what the act itself caused initially.
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