okay while my gf is in the shower let me get this out...

she is seriouslyamazing like..i may really love her but aside from that...im broke..as fuck, no job, school starts monday and i'll be job searching then.

she lives like a 150blocks from me..2 bus rides, mayb 8min drive...i dont have my car, but she is able to drive her roomates as long as she puts gas....

i hate how she drives the car all the way here2 see me and spends like 1- bucks on gas evreyday, plus if we go out, plus if we decide to watch a movie or do whatever...she seriously ends up paying for me most of the time, unless i get money from my parents, any dime i get frommy parents i give to her...

we get into arguemtnts u can say because i hate taht feeling, because before when i had money, i wasnt with her at the time, but i always was the one being nice and doing what she does, but now she is doing it to me and it annoys me.

i feel like shit cuz its like she is providing for me and i think that i shold be providing for her....idk...

oh and btw im typing all this with the monitor off now that she has left the shower, so if it sounds retarded then sorry, il fix later...

advice suggestions anything, reply back peeps.

peace.

I think that a few things should be considered in this case:

1 - Temporary failure in job hunting is normal - it often takes quite a few tries to find a job that suits your needs. If you are constantly searching for a job, but do not find one, your girlfriend should be understanding enough to know that you have given it your best. At the very least, let her know that you are giving it a shot; let her know that you are putting effort into financing the relationship. She will respect your efforts.

2 - A relationship does not automatically imply excessive burdens on your funds. Elaborate fancy dinners are not necessary all the time. Sometimes, a paper crane that took you a long time to make means a lot more to her.

3 - Your interests are first, regardless. Relationships are important, of course, but no more so than your own needs. Try to remember that =)

You are absolutely right, Last Singularity....
The economy right now sucks. Big time. I work for Target, and so far the 'BTS' (back-to-school) season is not now what it was like last year; everybody is feeling the pinch. No sales=No extra hours.
So, MJ, you're not alone, believe me. I've been there for nearly 4 years and I don't have any plans of leaving anytime soon.

You should tell her nicely 'thanks, sweety, it means alot to me'
or something similar. The key is nicely...And when you do get back on your feet soon ( I know all Targets' will be hiring seasonal help VERY soon ) you can repay her by maybe taking her to dinner and/or a movie.

It if really bothers you, don't let it.
Money issues are always a part of ANY relationship, and can lead to fights if not approached delicately. I wish my former girlfriend took me to dinner or a movie or anywhere where I did'nt have to always pay. And she made more than I did.
My current girlfriend who I love more than anything, has taken me to dinners, lunches, movies and shoppping - and she did not mind. I asked her nicely why and she replied " because I love you and want you to be happy! "
I replied to her " I'm happy just being with you! " then grabbed her in my arms, gave her a big hug and whispered in her ear " I love you just for being you. "
She almost cried. It was a nice moment.

Just remember MJ, you have your whole life ahead of you and a lifetime to find the right girl. When you do, you'll just know.
And BTW,my girl was the one to first say " I love you " which I know is rare; well to me it is (IMG:http://www.glowsticking.com/forums/style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)

Sorry if I rambled on alot more than usual.
Hope this helps some.
Just my 2 cents...

Dude dont' let money problems poison your relationship.. sounds like you both care about each other a lot. What matters is at heart; being there for each other and being supportive while you both take care of life. (IMG:http://www.glowsticking.com/forums/style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)

My boyfriend pays for a lot... seeing as I'm in school and don't work. Do I feel like shit sometimes? Sure. But I shouldn't. And neither should you. It's not like you are taking advantage of her and having her pay because you know she will and you just want what you want, ya know? Accept that she cares about you and if money really was a huge deal she wouldn't pay. So just accept each other, don't take advantage of her, make sure she knows shes appreciated, and I think everything will be kosher (IMG:http://www.glowsticking.com/forums/style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)

Dates don't always require money. You can one day just ride the bus to her house, then go on a walk with her. Make some food at your house and have a picnic in a park with her. Those things usually end up being a lot more meaningful because you put the effort into it.

my brother tol me how he felt this about a girl he dated.
its a natural thing i suppose, i mean we are men
this video called "tough guise" shows how media affects men's psychology and how we are raised up to act and be like and feel about particular things
not saying that this was a product of media at all, but in the sense of the way we are brought up we view things to go a certain way, and if they don't it isn't *correct*
but as long as shes happy, you are good
if she is bitching and complaining about it all the time then thats no good, id cancel her
and hell, this feeling should drive you to get a job and stuff, so go out n do it! don't let school mentally block you out of all this free time you really do have that you can spend makin money.

yo dude honestly money should never be an issue. yea everyone has thier ups and downs but your together cuz luv not money...... so what if she pays al the time for u this is just now u need to look at the bigger picture... all that means u gotta be extra nice to her if u no what i mean...... lol dont let silly things mess up your happyness. dont get mad for things that are uncontrolible at least she dont mind doing all that and she isnt the type to throw it uin your face.. you na mean

yeah, we kinda settled it....she'll pay for things for us to enjoy ourselves, but once i get ajob, i'll be paying for things more often. ima job search tomorrow. WISH ME LUCK!