So, i seem to have etched it into my mind that everything is my fault when it comes to girls. I blame my first relationship for this... it was one of those "oh its my first relationship and I love her so much and its gunna last for ever" type things... (ha ha, to be young and naive again) well, to make things quick, she was a manipulative bitch (and I dont typically say those types of things about anyone) and exploited the fact that all I wanted at the time was to be with her on a daily basis. she would turn something completely harmless into a big deal and make it my fault. for example, one day some guy drove by in a green lotus... naturally my head turns to admire the car. apparently there was a woman in the passenger seat and to her it was just beyond all belief that I was looking at the car and not her, it turned into a huge heated argument . about twice a week she would twist something I said, or spin an event so that she could start a fight with me.
well, the good from this was that I learned to phrase things so that they couldnt possibly be spun around to bite me in the ass and refrain from doing things that could even possibly be construed as insensitive or malevolent.
the negative part is that now, when I actually get up the courage to risk getting close to a girl, whenever they seem to be upset or angry about something, I automatically start thinking of ways I could have possibly upset her... coupled with my innate paranoia, I convince myself that I am the cause of every bad mood that they ever have.
so now up to present day.
a couple of weeks ago, my love life took a very complicated turn. for the past half year I have been very fond of a good friend of mine and it was just kind of known that she felt the same way. fond like, I would have asked her to be with me with no second thoughts immediately if she wasnt dating another good friend of mine and I wasnt dating a good friend of hers. well coincidentally, we both broke up with eachothers friends in the same week and started talking to eachother about it and finally came out and told eachother how we felt. we are kind of together. Im only in san diego so often, having recently moved to arizona for a more potentially permanent thing... and this weekend was the first time I have gotten to see her since we spilled the beans to eachother. well, things were awkward for the first 15 minutes when we first saw eachother cause we kind of built things up over the phone (no, not that way you perverts) but once we kissed everything seemed like it would be fine. well, today we were supposed to hang out again, however some stuff came up and she had to cancel. so my paranoia kicks in and I start to wonder if I did something wrong the night before. the whole day goes by and I havent heard from her, and I come home and realize she changed her status on the all powerful myspace to "is just angry". so now I have convinced myself that there is no other possibility... I did something to piss her off and she's avoiding me. weather or not its true, i have no idea. I very well could just be a complete basket case, but I dont want to ignore it cause it very well could be something I just didnt realize that i did.

are there any other mentally warped people out there who have similar problems??? at this point in time it would really just be nice to know its not just me loosing sleep, not to mention my mind, over uncertainty here?

oh... and by the way...
dEtour, you cant mention this to anyone. I appreciate it.

I'm actually almost the exact same way, if not completely the same way.
I'm a people pleaser. If the other person's upset, then I automatically blame myself for being either the cause of it, or not being able to fix it.
I'm down most of the time because of it.
Trying to please people and having people get angry or annoyed, is not a great combination. It just makes me feel 100 times worse. Like I've failed at my job.
Thats just my personality, its how I work.
I know exactly where you're coming from though.
You should talk to her about it (if you haven't yet)
and try and change your mindset that everything is your fault (I know, its hard. I still can't do it) Sometimes jumping to conclusions makes things worse. Assuming everything is your fault sometimes seems like a conceited thing. Don't ask me how, it just seems like it sometimes. The other person might get extremely annoyed.
Idk.
I'm just going through personal experience.

*is a crazy basket case too*

You're not the only one. I do the same thing. I'll tend to overthink things that are really nothing at all. Such as a mood staus or something like that. I'll convince myself that it's something that I did. I wouldn't get yourself too worked up about it. Wait and see what happens, because 9 times out of 10 it's really nothing at all. I hope that things work out for you. (IMG:http://www.glowsticking.com/forums/style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)

its good to know Im not the only one out there =)
this would be so much easier to deal with if I wasnt so good at over analyzing things. while I know her pretty well, I dont really know her in a relationship sense. not knowing that side, gets to me cause now, I have 5 different things that might have done it depending on how she is... this sucks.

<---- biggest overthinker ever. lol

false =)

^^ second biggest overthinker ever...

<---- real biggest overthinker ever

It's no use calling yourself the biggest overthinker 'cause I overthink ridiculously as well, so everyone'll think they're the most intense at it. (IMG:http://www.glowsticking.com/forums/style_emoticons/default/wink.gif) I'll say I'm the biggest philosophical, generalizing overthinker ever.

Definitely going to agree with Danika here, though, and say that communication is absolutely the most vital thing. The only thing worse as worrying that something's wrong when there really isn't, is having something BE wrong but not admitting it. So if there's something she's unhappy with, she should be able to tell you. If you know that she would tell you if something about you or something you did was bothering her, then there should be no problems and you shouldn't have to worry. (IMG:http://www.glowsticking.com/forums/style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)

you know, I never really thought of that. thank you =)
luckily for me, she knows Im a complete mental case and keeps me pretty well informed =)