Well, for all of you guys that have a problem with your relationship or have questions about love feel free to as a woman that's in a relationship who's also has very bad past experiences. I'm not saying I'm an expert but I may have something of value to say or I may have been in a similar situation . . . . let's help each other and grow with one another . . .sounds good right?

Aileen is invited to help me cause she's the forum Mother (all in a good way.) and whoever else wants to is fine.

>.>....<.<.....first poster......wel....Ok, theres this girl that likes me, but shes 16. I dont like her, but i dated her because i like her sister. Shes 17. But now the 16yo little sister who likes me is all klingy after i said i didnt want to go out with her. And her big sister, the 17yo wont date me untill the little sister stops the clingyness. So yeah....how can i make the younger sister stop the clingyness and not look like an ass?

I got a question! Why do girls constantly avoid the "nice guys" like myself, and tend to try and get with the quote unquote "asshole"... I just don't get it...

ok... I've always been a bit of a romantic, but never thought I had much luck as far as girls went. I am currently in the greatest relationship I could possibly imagine. A lot of people use the word love like a toy to mean something else, and a lot of people think they really know what love means but really have no idea, so I'm not going to claim anything out loud; I do know I've never felt this way before.

She feels the same way; at her work however, is another guy that she likes and might even date were she not going out with me. I trust her completely; she won't cheat on me. But I also know that she feels some affection towards him. She's quitting that job because she got a better one, but she still has these last two weeks to work there. I have no idea how he feels towards her. We've been going out a couple of months now, but I've liked her for a year and she's liked me for two years. She's slightly more physical than I am, but not shallow at all (which is part of why I'm attracted to her)

She got out of a really bad relationship before going out with me, which is why we waited a while before actually starting to date, just to be sure that she wasn't feeling desperate or just needed emotional support (which I was more than willing to give as either friend or boyfriend)

So... I'm not used to this kind of thread, and I'm a little nervous about posting all this up, but I don't want to lose her by doing something stupid. Thanks for reading

You can talk to the lil sis and tell her straight up; in a curt but decent way that you really don't like her and her clingyness is affecting how you would carry out your every day life. While you do appreciate the attention there's nothing there that you can reciprocate because you don't feel the same way.

Just a tip though . . . don't date someone to get at their sister. We see that as dog behavior and we start interpreting things differently. Things like that show character . . .and you don't want to get off on the wrong foot with the girl you actually like.






Its almost an age old question; the answer isn't that simple though . ..

1. Some women like living on the edge, the danger is alluring and it has almost a drug effect on them.
2. Some women think that they can change a man to fit their mold, so they'll go after a bad boy so to speak and try to change them into something they can control . .its about power and dominanace then
3. Some girls just get down like that . . .

Personally I'm with someone who most deem and asshole but only because he's intelligent and overtly truthful . . so it depends on what you mean when you say asshole.

Nice guys are the ones that most girls find out about when they're ready to get married or when they start living with a "bad boy" and they see how destructive that relationship is or how different it is from everyone elses . . . and nice guys are the reliable friends for the most part and believe it or not . . .but in the long run they do get the girl.

(I'm not saying that all guys that have that "bad boy" persona end up having destructive relationships so if anyone brings that up . . I'll bite them)

no reply for me Azzie? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tongue.gif) just kidding, I'll wait.

Honestly I think its time for one of those sit down conversations where you get answers instead of being left alone with your thoughts. I can't scream loud enough how important communication is. I know you, and I know you wouldn't be with someone that's not intelligent and rational so use that to get the information you need. Wait till the mood is right . . . and causally bring it up. Let her know that you are concerned about the guy simply because you don't know what's going on between the two of them.
I'm not an advocate of throwing the word love around either but let her know how you feel and how everything's been making you feel.
She'll give you the information that you need to make an informed decsion about the path of your relationship.

But just a heads up, most women need someone to go to other than their boyfriend even a best friend just because the people that are close to them are the ones that they fear judgement from. It could also be that she just needs someone else to run her thoughts by and is afraid of embarassment or something like that if she brings that to you. You can also bring up to her that nothing that she says to you would change the way that you feel about her ( well only if that's true of course)

Happy communicating.

thanks, and that is true.
I wish that were the case with this guy, but I AM the person she told about this; she honestly wanted me to know that she was getting distracted by this guy, which is part of the reason she went looking for a different job. I am the person most of the girls I know run things by; I'm like the gay guy-friend... except I'm not gay.

Thanks a million Azzie! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)

No prob and remember to talk it out . . . (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif)