month and half and still killing me slowly.
how am i supposed to move on?

ive tried everything possible.
Even something considered to be life changing. NOW I MISS HER EVEN MORE.
what the hell do you do to get rid of the love, ive tried everything.
you'd think month and ahalf it would atleast go down a little.
nope. still there 100% just as strong as before.

Hate to sound like the asshole here, but weren't you complaining about your ex before while you guys were dating, CONSTANTLY?

Just to remind you: Do NOT discuss personal drug use on the boards.

Anyhow. My advice is that sometimes, if you try too hard to move on, it doesn't go away as easily. Because by going cold turkey, it's acknowledging just how drastically different things are now that she's gone. Love doesn't just-- bam, go away if you ignore it. It has to fade in stages.

You have to take a look at how you've been changed. Look at how you're different & live your own life. Remember the good times & remember love, but...you broke up for a reason. I heard you talking about all the troubles you had. Remember why you moved on.

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also, a month & a half is NOT long. ha. try coming back in six months & then you can start asking why it's not fading yet.

Month and a half is nothing. If you really loved her, i'd say you need atleast 3 months. Probably more like 6.

But the best thing you can do is just remove everything that reminds you of her from your immediate environment. Out of sight out of mind; thats all that really helps.

they are all right, 1 1/2 months is nothing if you loved her...and ya getting rid of anything that reminds you of her will help...as a matter of fact me and my girlfriend habe been together for almost 6 monthes now and her last ex was 3 years ago...took her like 2 years to move on and about a month after we started dating, we went into the woods by our school and burned anything we still had from our last relationships (since we both got hurt so bad) we burned old noted, pictures...anything and you know what? it felt amazing just to get rid of anything that still tied me to my ex...maybe you should try that.

also once you feel ready to fully move on (and its ok if you not it takes time) keep your eyes open for that perfect girl that will just blow your mind away with the little things your ex never did...kepp your heart open and love will always find its way in at one point or another

oooh, this is a very, very good call. I went back a couple of months ago and deleted tons of chat logs that I had with old exes, because I felt like I'd reached a point where I needed to move on with my life & relationship, but occasionally I was dwelling on past pain.

thing is, I don't know if it's a good idea straight after a relationship ends, because you act rashly when you're not thinking straight sometimes. I deleted things only after I'd reached closure.

ya i agree never get back in the game if your not fully ready to...take your time and make sure you arnt just getting back out there to move on and then youl just hurt people (bad idea...personal experiences lol) pretty much I got dumped and started flirting like crazy with anyone and turns out someone started to like me and I just ended up hurting her...i tend to do that alot (IMG:http://www.glowsticking.com/forums/style_emoticons/default/wacko.gif)

Joe Chitussi, i hope u get over her soon cuz i hated seein it when my friend doesnt get over 'love' for over a year and a half. almost 2. and what u said reminded me of what i've been goin through exactly. same amount of time. but idk how u and ur ex was before. so just sucks to hear and to know im not the only one goin though it.

the longer the relationship the longer it takes to get over it. i don't know the ratio but people cant agree on it anyway.

Try jumping back in the dating pool. rebound relationships may not be fair to the other person but they are effective

surprisingly yea.
dunno how we lasted so long together cause we fought NON stop. but i dunno still really hard to let go. i think whats botheirng me so much is, we still talk i mean were still really close friends and it causes me to miss the past.

yea i guess only reason month and a half seems long to me is cause before i had no heart. i mean i could be in a 9 month relationship and forget it in two days.

but i dunno this one i cant seem to let go. i guess it is cause i really loved her.
and only way to delete her outta my life is to erase everything in life. she was that involved with EVERYTHING


i had 3 back up girls...
now what do you know theyre gone. kinda sucks when i need them them they are gone.

you'll be fine joe.

just hang in there

tryin bro
im tryin

so damn hard tho.
its pretty much everything reminds me of her.
i mean even right now im sick...WHAT DO YOU KNOW its from her.
for the last 11 months ive never been sick and didnt get it from her.
i mean yea that may be a negative but just EVERYTHING reminds me of her.

A month and a half isn't long at all.

My best advice is to go out and do stuff, go read a book, go to the rec center and work out. Do anything that does not involve trying to get to know the opposite sex. Just do things for YOU. Then, your life will get more normal. You won't have to keep busy to not think about her any more. Then, in the midst of doing things for yourself, you find someone new, and you have fun with them doing the new interests in your life.

Also, not to give false hope, but things happen for a reason. My boyfriend and I were together for a bit years ago, was totally head over heels in love with him. Didn't work out. Seriously dated 2 people after him, but my mind was always on him. And then we got back together, and have been together for 2 years in August. So sometimes you may find your way back to each other. But if not, you WILL find someone else. I promise (IMG:http://www.glowsticking.com/forums/style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)

So snark aside..

As others have said, a month and a half is nothing. It seems like forever right now but in the long run, it's short.

And to be honest, you don't really need to be all that in love with someone to take a while to get over them. Sometimes the underlying resentment and bitterness can be mistaken for longing in that we think back to the happier time and wish that we were going through them again. I know I took a while getting over an ex because he pissed me off so much that I thought I really missed him as a boyfriend and as a friend (he was the first friend I made when I transferred, then we started dating). Turns out he's a jerk, and still is one.

Then again, sometimes we don't know what we have lost until they're gone.

if you want this to be as painless as possible.. try not to think about it and avoid it as much as you can. keep yourself busy and avoid things that remind you of her.

dont sit at home and do nothing cuz all you'll end up doing is thinking of her, like what everyone else says, keep yourself busy.