ok so me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost 6 months now and im pretty sure we are going to spend the rest of our lives together (*crosses fingers*) only problem is that I really dont think my parents like her that much...so my first question is do I make an effort to make my family get to know her for who she is and what they have seen or do i say fuck it and let them dislike her?

next problem...im almost 17 and my parents give me no privacy...we and my girlfriend cant even be in my room together anymore and the other week for no reason my mom said I cant have ANY friends in my room (including guys) and personaly I think its bull but whatever...anyways...this past year things have gotten very difficult with them and we end up fighting alot because shes so stupid...first she yells at me to get a job (past 5 months-ish) and I got a job 2 weeks ago and now shes complaining that I wanna work to much and im never home and because im either working or with my girlfriend (although i havent worked much because in the 2 weeks iv been hired iv had to ask off for 1 1/2 weeks because my family wanted to go on vacation and they wouldnt let me stay home and now they havent been putting me on the schedual because im never avalible)...iv been so tempted to just run away like 4-6 times...once i even rode my bike 3 hours to my girlfriends house...that didnt please my parents to much...but anyways, do i just suck it up for my last two years of high school or should i seriously concider getting amancipated from them (or devorcing them which-ever floats ur boat lol)

Your Friend;
Shaw

I know how this is. I'm going to be flat out real with you because your situation sounds like something I was involved in.

First, the only way to show that you are serious about this and want to make it serious for all parties is introducing her formally and letting your parents meet your GF, and be willing to take some cuts and conessions in order to show that she has a place in your life that your parents shouldn't be able to touch. Talk this out with her first, and see if she wants this. If you can get through this, your parents will understand the importance for your independence and won't be quick to thin it is theirs to swallow.

Second, please no one other than yourself and whoever is your significant other. Don't be rude, mean, or angry, just look for what is in your best interest. If that means cutting back on work and instigating time with your family, do it. If it means sitting down and talking with them, do it. Relationships, be them, family, friends, or significant others, are about communicating feelings accurately, tactfully, and with emotion. This can be really had to balance, but give it time.

Third, grounds for emancipation are only filable if you can show self-suffciency and qualify for certain requirements, such as being able to fully support yourself in room, board, utilities and work. That is near impossible, so unless you are making somewhere like 10-20k a year, it's tough. At 18, you are more able to move freely, but that comes at a price. Reasoning is your best bet.

Running away never works. Simply put. You can't become an adult by running from the bigger things in life. As for forcing a divorce, think of it this way. Imagine the marriage as the twin towers. There is a good foundation, a couple of the beams may be loose, and it is made out of glass. If you want to break the marriage, will you be willing to pick up the debris?

they have formaly met...she comes over for dinner alot of stuff thats y i jsut dont know how to get them to like her...

Ever asked them right out if they like her, and if not, why?

no i havent...they say thay do but i think they dont because they said they liked her b4 they walked in on us kissing (thats y we cant b in my room bc they think we will kiss when in actuality we have went farther) and now they make up stupid reason for me not to see her or even sometime give no reason...like a few days before one of my vacations she wanted me home to help pack our bags...we didnt even talk about it once they sat on the couch and watched tv all night

I think an honest and open minded discussion is the best thing, because otherwise, you're groping in a dark room for a bag of knives. Try seeing how much information you can get, giving as little as possible. Don't lie, don't get angry, butdon't spill your guts.

ok il try that...thanks

Good Luck man, I wish ya well.

Also keep in mind of your age. Even though you think you are almost seventeen, your parents still see you as a sixteen year old, or even younger.

There is a lot out there that you don't know about. Some parents do their best to shield their kid or give contradictory statements because they're worried. The situation just sounds like they are worried that you may get your girlfriend pregnant by accident, or some other types of situations that have more severe consequences than people think. They don't want you to short change your future because of this.

Spend a little bit less time with your girlfriend and a bit more time with your family until things smooth over and see if you can get hours scheduled again; they may fire you if you're never available because of your family and significant other demanding time. Show your parents that you have the maturity necessary to maintain a job and a relationship without distancing yourself from them.

ya i should get more hours...turns out they put in my avalibility wrong and i didnt have ANY at all...and i work with my girlfriend and shes a work-o-holic so she doesnt demand time with me (only day she does is the first of every month bc those are our days since i asked her out and january 1st...today is our 6moth (IMG:http://www.glowsticking.com/forums/style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) ) so ya...thanks for the advice

well first off.
your turning 17? and only together 6 months. seriously i feel you are just thinking your in love. like yea good luck i hope you do marry her. but its VERY unlikely.

like im 17 almost 18 my girlfriend and i have been togehter almost a year. i love her thats for sure.
but im not evne sure we'd get married.
dont get your hopes to high cause if it ends you'll feel horrible
and parents not liking her...
i dunno see my advice isn't the best lol.
basically im a rebel. and i really dont get along with my family. so yea...i really dont give two shits if they like her or not. but luckily they love her.

and the part about your parents being so strict....yea see my parents were the same but i just rebelled against it and now they dont give two shits about me.

so i dunno my approach works...but its bad. you get what your want but shit sucks after. i mean my parents hate me. they already said once im 19 i better be out of the house.

and i mean. my parents love her. my whole family loves her. but they would hate if i married her. reasaon being. shes black. and im italian. but hense why i hate my family so much...
like excuse me? just because shes black i cant be wtih her? i cant be with the one girl that makes me happy cause shes black? its not yur life its mine i should be able to be with whoever makes me happy. so yea...
i really hate my family for that. way i see it. they can go fuck themselves then. like ok other than her being black, how can they hate her? shes the sweetest girls possible

ugh this iam seriously biased on, not the fact that iam racist but its just the way that i was raised. I would get killed (im polish btw) if my girlfriend was black or anything else =/

dont get me wrong i WOULD rebel if i could...i jsut got a job so i cant really suport myself and this isnt even my own computer...i meen im the only one who really uses it but my parents payed for it and its in the family room so if they get mad they can kick me off (i love computer btw lol) same with out game councols and tv and all that stuff...but anyways...for the time being rebel is not an option at least for a while that is...