Why do teens rebel against their parents?
Posted 11 August 2009 - 04:14 PM
Question is, why do we do it? Is there something that makes us instinctively rebel, or is it the effect of today's modern society on teens, and parenting?
Maybe it's because teens believe that they already know what is best for themselves, even though their parents know that they are wrong, or the parents are over protective, and the teen is mature enough to make their own decisions.
Posted 11 August 2009 - 04:34 PM
My dad thinks he's always right, my mom thinks i'm always lying, and i don't care what they think.
My dad has an attitude of if you start something, don't stop halfway through, my mom has an attitude of do something when i tell you too, and i have the i'll get it done eventually attitude, etc
stupid stuff like that
Posted 11 August 2009 - 08:46 PM
anyway, i feel that it is because parents have an idea of growing up that is based around whatever era they grew up in. todays teen sees the world completely different than an adult does, and when there is disagreement between the two sides, it is seen as they teenager rebeling.
its not that the teen is necessarily wrong, its just that the adult has the majority vote and can refuse to see other points of view.
i am not going to go any further until there are other points of view. and goddam this phone is nice
Posted 11 August 2009 - 08:57 PM
Posted 11 August 2009 - 09:27 PM
We start to crave independence, our own decisions, our own experiences, etc.
We start to develope our own wisdom, ideas of what's right or wrong, our own values.
Then eventually we're mature and leave to be our own adults.
Posted 11 August 2009 - 10:20 PM
Example: Most kids are going to experiment with drugs. Parents say no because they already had their chance to try them. Kids will still do it because they want to.
Thats the main reason kids rebel. They feel, "If I want to do something, who's gunna stop me?"
At least thats what I think.
Posted 12 August 2009 - 04:21 AM
Of course those are theories and I haven't studied a specific one. But they mainly talk about rebelling in general, not just parents. The only reason I apply it to this is because it makes sense, since in most cases they are your most present form of authority.
Posted 12 August 2009 - 08:45 AM
Posted 12 August 2009 - 11:37 AM
Posted 12 August 2009 - 12:36 PM
Edited by Cheeks1014, 12 August 2009 - 12:36 PM.
Posted 12 August 2009 - 04:22 PM
As the teens brain develops. they become more aware of their own inner workings and motivations and start to see their parents as other people, instead of just as "parents". They start to see these people's flaws but don't quite know how to handle it. They start to think more abstractly, but without the maturity of an adult mind.
It's like small animals play-fighting. They feel the urge to test their boundaries.
I used to get really annoyed at my parents because they gave me nothing to rebel against. That in itself became something to get mad at them for, indirectly.
Posted 13 August 2009 - 10:04 AM
And I must fight the power!
Nah but my dad is a backstabber and my mom is a drama queen, idk how I came out of this but chow.
When I was smaller I didn't really know what a backstabber, or a drama queen was so I just went with what they said. Now after a short 15 years of life I have seen other people like them, and other types of people. From that experience I know that my parents arent the the type of people you should be listening to. Except in those obvious cases like taking out the car in the middle of the night to go to Derek with teh mustaches party. lol
but nah, I still listen to my parents but only when what they are asking me has knowledge and logic behind it. If it doesn't then I'll ask for a valid reason and if one cant be provided then I respond with a valid reason why I shouldn't listen to them. If I'm going to be disobedient, I'll at least provide a reason. I'm not a dick lol.
but cha, thats me. All kids are different. One of my friends doesn't listen to his parents cause he is somewhat spoiled. One of my other friends doesn't listen to his parents because he was adopted and feels resentment towards them for not telling him until like last year I think it was. Everyone has thier story.
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